Friday, November 12, 2010

Why do we ask " Why"? Happy people do NOT ask "WHY?" Or do they?

When things happen in my life I am always asking "Why?"

Why do we ask "Why?"? 

What benefit does it give us that we need to ask that question? That little three-letter word. The people I know from Alanon and AA say that the happiest people have zero expectations. These PEOPLE DO NOT ASK "Why?"

Do I have too many expectations?  Absolutely!    Do I have too many questions? Absolutely!

Ok. Guess my overthink is in overdrive. Or maybe I'm just a closet philosopher... When  I pose the question of 'Why?' I am asking eternal questions that have no answers. Why do we need answers?  Opps. Another Why. I cannot get away from asking Why.

Is this just another excuse to overthink? I named my dog, LetGo, hoping his name would remind me to let go of my thoughts. But why let go? Opps. Another Why. Why do we seek answers. Gosh. Am I stuck on Why!

I like answers. Guess that is why I keep asking questions. I have always presumed that the normal folks didn't ask Why. They already had the answers. Now why is that? Opps. Am I a broken record?

Well, part of my thinking process is that I actually 'HEAR' myself thinking. Yep. I am talking to myself. So if I am thinking aloud to myself I am actually talking to myself. And when people talk they ask a lot of questions. Asking questions, asking "Why?" is this the norm or not the norm?  Hmm...

When you are thinking are you talking to yourself? Do you hear your own voice speaking? Where is the cognitive psychologist when you need her or him? Do I talk too much to myself? Is this really my 'overthink'? Wish I knew how other people described their thinking process.




If there is anyone out there in blogland, give a comment on your WHYs... and if you talk to yourself. Seems like I am just an echo. Any echoes out there?

Until I hear any replies I am definitely needing to unwind in my music box tonight. Will the music ever stop? 
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 ** Below has some interesting comments on mental clutter. Nice to hear how other people think. 
 * Interesting. This site says 'thinking over' vs my 'overthink.' But I do think this link has 'overthunk'.
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3 comments:

forestwalk/laura k said...

i think ALL people ask WHY! why? :] cause we're curious...we want to KNOW...just like little kids ask WHY to so many things...depending on WHO you ask why to...you might get very different explanations...
why this? why that? ...you want someone else's opinion...so you can THINK... come up with your OWN opinion...and then have the answer when someone asks YOU 'WHY'!!

the overthinker said...

I like your comment "So you can think." We need to give ourselves permission to think and, as you said, so that we can have our own unique opinion. Thanks for your insightful and caring comment.

crayzys said...

Found a very unique perspective on what I have called my overthinking at this post by Chris at Pennsylvania Echoes: http://echopen.wordpress.com/2011/11/15/subvocalization-inner-speech-and-intrusive-thinking/

The perspective Chris presents is that these subvocalizations are part of the language dialogue process between the emotional brain and the logical propcessing of emotions towards healthy development. Very clear steps are presented to work through 'overthinking' and avoid getting stuck.

For writers this may explain WHY YOU FEEL COMPELLED TO WRITE...