Deconstruct shame. Shame is learned in childhood when we lose connection with others and ourselves. Gabor Mate says such loss is perceived as our fault.
Shame manifests itself as critical self-talk. This criticism creates maladaptive strategies like substance use, eating disorders, other unsafe behaviors, or mental health issues like depression.
Shame is a feeling of unworthiness. How can you feel worthy?
Learn to separate yourself from the feeling. Identify the origins of shame. Notice your shame as if it were a separate entity--something outside yourself.
Ask yourself how this feeling of shame is protecting you. What would happen if shame didn't do its protective role? You can deconstruct shame by moving into the suffering you feel when you experience shame.
Approach shame.
Move out of the trance of unworthiness.
Believe in the healing power within you.
Cultivate self-compassion.
Here's a beneficial link to advice by Jason Wu:
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